25 years old is certainly not a quarter life crisis as mentioned by many. Instead, life has barely began. Think back about your childhood; you live through the education marathon from middle school to university. It is as if the road was paved for you. Everything was certain and you know what was coming. But the uncertainties come in when you are applying for your first job upon graduation, it feels like you are thrown into a vast patch of safari with no end in sight. And you realized things has changed, so are your perceptions towards everything.
Here is what I got. This is definitely different for everyone.
1) Parties on weekends.
Parties on weekends are slower phrasing out of my life, same goes for late nights. Certainly a good thing for the aging human body and something to celebrate about.
2) Just that much close friends.
Recently, I heard a very true and mind-engraving remark from someone I had a conversation with; people come and go in life. No matter how much you try, friends will drift away from you over time. And the problem doesn’t lie with anyone, this is just humans and we can’t be that good friends with everyone. 8 good friends is better than 80 ‘friends’.
3) Social updates on Facebook are meh.
Unlike back in school where everyone seems like having a social update war, right now I need that little amount of privacy about what’s going on in my life. Or simply, I’m tired of Facebook and how my parents’ generation are having their own accounts.
4) Do I still look young?
I have passed that stage where I want to look I’m still 18. What matter most is I look good and feel good.
5) People’s perception of me.
I can’t please everyone. I can’t change what people think. I’m myself and that is what’s most important.
6) Peer pressure
Oh come on, it’s just myself and reality. Get over yourself and you say goodbye to peer pressure.
7) Living up to others’ expectations.
We have passed the stage of fulfilling your parents’ expectations, your girlfriend’s expectations or whoever. But if you are working, don’t forget your boss’s expectations. Embrace adulthood, create your own expectations and live up to it. I’m sure they love it as much as they love you. This brings us to the next point.
8) Letting go my expectations of adulthood.
It doesn’t matter whether your parents are married at the age of 24 or your grandparents are married at the age of 18. Adulthood is a journey of self-discovery and unique to every individual. Don’t let your preconceived ideas hinder it.
9) Is life a rat race?
So what if it is? I got an option here. I make my own decisions and trust that decisions lead to consequences. Like it or not, we all decide if we want to be one of the rats.
10) Being an adult sucks.
I know right. Bill to pay, stress from work and zero sympathy from anyone. 21 is the legal age of an adult, but bullshit comes anytime. We just get better dealing with it over time. There’s no app for that.
11) Failing at things.
I bet we all have our own share of fail stories to tell. Failing finals, failing to get the girl next door, failing to remember your Dad’s birthday. Failing comes in all sorts and we all learn from it. It doesn’t matter if you fail.
“What is the point of being alive if you don’t at least try to do something remarkable?” – John Green